Me being rude

[stewartedwards]

Hi

While this is mainly aimed at Paul and LorrB, I am happy for any serious constructive (even if critical) comments from others, especially Henka if he is willing.

I have a bit of a problem, in that I appear to getting a bit ruder with people (face to face), something which is amazing me as I do it. Rationally it is probably a combination of the credit crunch squeeze combined with wondering whether it is worth my while bothering to step up further to do a bit make to make our world a better place, after all I hve already done a lot and can continue to do a lot as a nobody, and that is very tempting, and I guess that I am a little annoyed at being tempted to take the easy if still societal valuable route. [the beeing seen to be doing the right thing over actually doing it, and organisations being scared to do the right thing in case they get sued and be at a financial loss for being a good samaratan continues to grind at me - actually this latter part is what got me being rude today and what has led to this post]

But I know what I am doing and I know that I am slipping up a lot, though to be fair many would probably not notice what I mean by being rude most of time, for different people have different tolerance levels of such things. But having mastered this aspect of my character many years ago now I am gobsmacked at myself and while I am dealing with it, I am interested if anyone is willing to put forward and thoughts that I may have missed.

This will keep me busy for the rest of this year as I fathom deeply into it and rebuild, hopefully on stronger long term foundations, what appears to have subsided.

All of the obvious esoteric stuff I have considered (eg energy from those talking to me inciting a reaction etc, but this is not really the scenarios that I am being rude )

I am getting a little tired of realising that I am being an arse pretty much immediately after doing it and then having to go back and apologize. And I am a little embarrassed that I appear to have a little darkness back in in this regard. While it goes to show that you can never neglect your work, I am a little annoyed with myself.

Any constructive thoughts appreciated.

[paul]

There is a tradition, at least in cop thrillers, of "good cop, bad cop". It apparently works better than just "good cop"

[Henka]

The fact that you recognize this is the first step toward controlling it. I think you need to ground and center.

[LorrB]

Oct 4, 2011 4:47:14 GMT 9.5 stewartedwards said:

I have a bit of a problem, in that I appear to getting a bit ruder with people (face to face), something which is amazing me as I do it.

Maybe you mistake Courage for rudeness, Stewart. In all my years of reading your comments, I have never once noticed you being rude. You have always come 'from the heart', which is a Centre.

Even the way you write indicates to the reader that you are a good man with good intentions.

One thing I have noticed after years of trying to self improve, is that one becomes more aware of one's shortcomings, and so to us it might even seem that we are going backwards, when the reverse is true. Keep in mind that the more we learn the more we realise the more we have to learn. Our consciousness is expanding.

Anyway, dare I say that you may get better advice from the others, I am of the age now where I get a great deal of satisfaction say "Oh, get over it" to some people who come to me with the same old problem. I then offer alternative ways of thinking about their particular problem. I do have to have the widest grin on my face when saying it - but the recipients of this rudeness know it is coming from the heart - and they usually come back for more (thank goodness ). I have a very busy office ;D

... to do a bit make to make our world a better place

... But having mastered this aspect of my character many years

... I am a little annoyed with myself.

Any constructive thoughts appreciated

We can only do what we can do Stewart, family, health, etc are all things that you must address first. A man improves the world by improving himself and inspiring others by his example - one step at a time.

Skills are continually tested -

Maybe we can start a "I am a little annoyed with myself" Club. I rather think that most thinking people would qualify for entry. I would like to say 'I annoy myself constantly' but rather shudder at the thought of the responses ;D Ah, what the heck!

[paul]

Stewart

You never come across as lacking in heart. Speaking bluntly with heart is never rude.

It is rather a matter of considering the best approach to the situation. Some situations need a strong impulse to break up existing patterns.

[Henka]

And some people just need a poke in the eye with a sharp stick!

[LorrB]

lol - I love this forum. Maybe later we can have a reunion on 'the other side'.